Why do we fight conflict with more conflict? Why do we think one wrong deserves another? Why do we lash out and hit the kid who just slapped his brother? What does the death penalty solve? Did killing any murderer, who is someone's son or daughter, bring peace to our world? Think about how many wars have been fought throughout the centuries...If war resulted in peace and love then we should have abounding peace on our planet.
What is with our preconditioned responses? Why do we feel that we have to even the score? What revenge ever solved anything? How do we teach our children not to fight by smacking them as punishment? How do we stop an argument if we always have to have the last word? How do we think that giving a murderer the death penalty brings justice and restores love? It is just more crime, more rage, anger and unforgiveness.
We have to open up our hearts to really find the answers. We need to feel as though everyone else's sons and daughters are our children. Put ourselves in their shoes. If your child raped, killed, stole or whatever how would you react? Would your reaction be one of cold judgement? Would you willingly send your child to the gallows? Would you? Or would you look at the pattern of violence that has been perpetuated down the family lineage? If your child is bullying others at school, do you point the finger at the other child or do you look for the key in the behavioural patterns at home? Do you look at yourself? If you are locked in battle with your boss, co-workers, friends, spouses or kids ask yourself, "How and why am I contributing to the cycle?"
It's time we become accountable for our circumstances we find ourselves in. It's time to stop blaming each other. We are the product of our thoughts, words and actions. Our societies are a reflection of us, the individual.
Let's look at the very wars we start on a daily basis.
On rising in the morning what is the first thing you say to yourself? Do you fight with your wrinkles or your expanding girth? Do you mutter and moan at the dog or cat that is vocalising its impatience for food? As you drive to work in the morning traffic, do you try and squeeze out the other motorists because your need to get to work on time is greater than theirs? Do you hurl angry comments at the other motorists on the road as they do what you so often do? Do you become angered as you police others who are driving whilst using their cell phones or changing lanes without indicating? Do you project and anticipate the imminent war at the office as you do battle in the traffic? Do you take it personally when someone used up the last of the coffee before you had your cup? Do you look for someone else's head to bite off when your boss moans at you? What is your response when you hear over the news that that serial murderer has been given the death sentence? How do you handle your difficult clients? Do you silently seethe and call them derogatory names behind their backs? How do you react when you arrive home to a chaotic household?
O.k. I think I have made my point.
War is everywhere and we are co creators. It is time to face the facts. Until we individually can stop the war within; our world around us will continue to reflect that which we detest in ourselves.
Our work is within. We need to access our love. We need to LOVE. That is all. We need to forgive ourselves our prejudices and admit our own shortcomings. We need to own up to our own heartlessness and our lack of compassion with self first then with others. When we are brave enough to admit that there is a murderer, an interrogator, a manipulator and an abuser in ourselves then the judgement will stop. When we stop our self righteousness and blaming of others and start to point the finger at ourselves we will see that the war begins with us.
How do we stop the anger and retaliation? How do we turn the other cheek as Jesus did? We have to steadfastly and consistently seek love, be with love and access love in presence. It has to become our base, our foundation, not just something we talk about. It has to be our daily practise.
Sonia shared with me from Dr Wayne Dyer's teaching this morning. He asked; "What do you get when you squeeze an orange? Orange juice of course." He further explained that when we are pressurised we get to see what we are on the inside. Whatever it is we are holding onto is what will burst out of us. Why do we retaliate and match anger with more anger? It's because we are focused on our egos. We are forgetting who we are. In the midst of conflict we forget to reach for the light within, to use the love at our source as our anchor. We need to keep reminding ourselves daily in our quiet time that we are loving, kind, compassionate, forgiving aspects of Divine love.
We need to be the light and we need to project that light. "We need to be the change we want to see in the world", as Gandhi so succinctly put it.
Let's shine our love on the world this week
love and more love
Nicolette
Monday 26 November 2012
Monday 19 November 2012
Evil
Whilst spectating at the 94.7 road race yesterday,I was asked by a bystander whether I believed in evil. I don't feel that the words I used did justice to what I feel in my heart and therefore felt the need to try and capture the real essence of what I feel, so here goes.
I came across this quote this morning:
"Evil is what happens when man doesn't have God in his heart." Alfred Einstein
To understand evil it is first important to understand what love is. I believe in love. Love is everything that is. Love is pure creative energy. It is eternal, has no beginning and no end. Love is constant motion. It cannot be curtailed, owned, bought or sold. You can access love freely. There is more than enough love to go around. It never runs out. It is a bottomless well from which you can refresh and recharge for eternity. Love is power. Love is presence, consciousness and is the only thing that I can honestly say is real. Love is the everlasting residing presence in the background of my existence. Love is the intangible that makes me cry real tears when I just feel its magnificent presence. You cannot see love, but you certainly can feel it. Love is awesome and it is the essence that gives my life direction and meaning. It is the inner guidance and voice that motivates me to dig deeper and unearth my highest potential.
We all have love within us. We are made out of love, by love itself. But sometimes even oftentimes we forget this awesome power that imbibes us. We entertain fear and the thought of separation and in our misguided thoughts about being alone we forget our inner spirit presence. We doubt our power and our excellence and through our minds we play with the thought that we are separate from our 'love centre' and that we need to desperately seek it, buy it, own it or steal it. We feel insecure and worthless and paralytic with fear.
When we entertain doubt and allow fear to grip us, because that is exactly what it does, it creates a tight tourniquet which completely restricts the constant flowing force of love within. Hence the power that was divinely channelling through us, no longer passes through our veins. Without the flow we become stagnant. Our ideas and thoughts become depressed and negative. We stop reflecting love and therefore we witness fear and lack of love wherever we turn, because what we are is reflected back at us through the eyes of others. It says in the bible somewhere 'As a man thinketh, so is he".
When we switch off our power centre, we experience a massive power failure. It is equivalent to when Eskom has a massive power cut in the middle of winter on the coldest, darkest night. Our fear is very real because in the dark we cannot see that there are others nearby. We feel enveloped in separateness and fearful of the creeping cold. When the light and with it the warmth go out, survival becomes our sole concern. In our separateness we begin an inner struggle to compete and fight for life. It becomes us against them as we begin our outer search for external fulfillment. In the dark fear becomes a very real experience. In this state we do not create anything. We just remain fixated and trembling on the spot.
Now enters 'evil'. From this space of uselessness and powerlessness, our minds are easily sabotaged by our egos. We entertain thoughts of fighting 'til death for shelter, warmth and food. We feel sucked into the belief that there are limited supplies of all our needs. We feel the urge to fight and compete. We believe that it is the strongest that will survive and hence our minds start to manufacture devious ways of outdoing and outsmarting the rest.
We start to create negatively. We plot and connive in secret. We plan to overthrow and control others in the interest of building our own self esteem, wealth and material assets.
But in this frenzy, we feel no peace, just paranoia. We constantly look over our shoulders to see who is about to stab us in the back and steal from us what we have stolen. We no longer feel the warmth and protection we felt when we accessed the love within. By our thoughts we have created distance for ourselves from LOVE. The more we plot evil the darker our world within and our perception of the world without. We no longer see just fear on others faces. We see a dangerous and evil place. We see hatred and bitterness and greed. We see what we are manifesting mirrored by others and it appears very real.
But at any time we are able to recreate our thoughts and select the 'on' button to open the gates of love. All we need do is remember that we are love and permit it to flow. As the essence begins to flow through our veins we begin to thaw out. Warmth imbibes us, renews us, refreshes and enlivens us. Power flows through every circuit in our bodies. We feel alive and filled with hope and peace. We feel satiated and whole and connected to our creative genius. We are happy and content and feel interconnected with all.
So, to reword Einstein's quote I would venture that we all have God in our hearts, but we sometimes forget and when we do all our power evades us. If we shut off our power supply we become malleable to evil and dark ways. But at any time that we regain consciousness of our inherent 'power centre' which is love, the power shifts from negative to positive creation.
So, let's stay connected and never forget our 'love' because it is our love that gives us hope and it is that which we see mirrored in our world around us.
Have a beautiful week
love
Nicolette
I came across this quote this morning:
"Evil is what happens when man doesn't have God in his heart." Alfred Einstein
To understand evil it is first important to understand what love is. I believe in love. Love is everything that is. Love is pure creative energy. It is eternal, has no beginning and no end. Love is constant motion. It cannot be curtailed, owned, bought or sold. You can access love freely. There is more than enough love to go around. It never runs out. It is a bottomless well from which you can refresh and recharge for eternity. Love is power. Love is presence, consciousness and is the only thing that I can honestly say is real. Love is the everlasting residing presence in the background of my existence. Love is the intangible that makes me cry real tears when I just feel its magnificent presence. You cannot see love, but you certainly can feel it. Love is awesome and it is the essence that gives my life direction and meaning. It is the inner guidance and voice that motivates me to dig deeper and unearth my highest potential.
We all have love within us. We are made out of love, by love itself. But sometimes even oftentimes we forget this awesome power that imbibes us. We entertain fear and the thought of separation and in our misguided thoughts about being alone we forget our inner spirit presence. We doubt our power and our excellence and through our minds we play with the thought that we are separate from our 'love centre' and that we need to desperately seek it, buy it, own it or steal it. We feel insecure and worthless and paralytic with fear.
When we entertain doubt and allow fear to grip us, because that is exactly what it does, it creates a tight tourniquet which completely restricts the constant flowing force of love within. Hence the power that was divinely channelling through us, no longer passes through our veins. Without the flow we become stagnant. Our ideas and thoughts become depressed and negative. We stop reflecting love and therefore we witness fear and lack of love wherever we turn, because what we are is reflected back at us through the eyes of others. It says in the bible somewhere 'As a man thinketh, so is he".
When we switch off our power centre, we experience a massive power failure. It is equivalent to when Eskom has a massive power cut in the middle of winter on the coldest, darkest night. Our fear is very real because in the dark we cannot see that there are others nearby. We feel enveloped in separateness and fearful of the creeping cold. When the light and with it the warmth go out, survival becomes our sole concern. In our separateness we begin an inner struggle to compete and fight for life. It becomes us against them as we begin our outer search for external fulfillment. In the dark fear becomes a very real experience. In this state we do not create anything. We just remain fixated and trembling on the spot.
Now enters 'evil'. From this space of uselessness and powerlessness, our minds are easily sabotaged by our egos. We entertain thoughts of fighting 'til death for shelter, warmth and food. We feel sucked into the belief that there are limited supplies of all our needs. We feel the urge to fight and compete. We believe that it is the strongest that will survive and hence our minds start to manufacture devious ways of outdoing and outsmarting the rest.
We start to create negatively. We plot and connive in secret. We plan to overthrow and control others in the interest of building our own self esteem, wealth and material assets.
But in this frenzy, we feel no peace, just paranoia. We constantly look over our shoulders to see who is about to stab us in the back and steal from us what we have stolen. We no longer feel the warmth and protection we felt when we accessed the love within. By our thoughts we have created distance for ourselves from LOVE. The more we plot evil the darker our world within and our perception of the world without. We no longer see just fear on others faces. We see a dangerous and evil place. We see hatred and bitterness and greed. We see what we are manifesting mirrored by others and it appears very real.
But at any time we are able to recreate our thoughts and select the 'on' button to open the gates of love. All we need do is remember that we are love and permit it to flow. As the essence begins to flow through our veins we begin to thaw out. Warmth imbibes us, renews us, refreshes and enlivens us. Power flows through every circuit in our bodies. We feel alive and filled with hope and peace. We feel satiated and whole and connected to our creative genius. We are happy and content and feel interconnected with all.
So, to reword Einstein's quote I would venture that we all have God in our hearts, but we sometimes forget and when we do all our power evades us. If we shut off our power supply we become malleable to evil and dark ways. But at any time that we regain consciousness of our inherent 'power centre' which is love, the power shifts from negative to positive creation.
So, let's stay connected and never forget our 'love' because it is our love that gives us hope and it is that which we see mirrored in our world around us.
Have a beautiful week
love
Nicolette
Monday 12 November 2012
Secrets
I abhor secrets. I battle to keep surprises like presents under wraps. It is not easy for me to withhold information from anyone. I remember my late mom telling me once that I was one of the most honest people she knew. And yet I have secrets.
Why would I withhold information from anyone? Because I fear their wrath. I fear their judgement. I fear conflict. Or perhaps to the contrary, I fear embarrassing, humiliating, offending or hurting another.
What do all these scenarios have in common? Fear.
And fear and secrets are bosom buddies.
All fear and secrets are a blockage to God's divine love. They act as a tourniquet to the one and only TRUTH, the flow of life force through our veins.
Haven't we noticed the relief on a person's face when they spill and confess. I was watching Carte Blanche the other night when one of Lance Armstrong's team mates confessed his use of drugs in the Tour De France. In closing he shared how free he finally felt now that he had let it all out. The relief was palpable on his face.
I bet you're thinking that withholding information from someone is a secret held for their highest good. I would disagree. We never know what lessons others need to evolve to their highest good. It is by our experiences and life lessons that we evolve and grow.
All I know is that when we withhold or store knowledge it is like placing water from the river of life into a large bucket and removing it from its source. It is to hide that water in a dark place away from the sunlight. What happens to water once it is removed from its life force energy? It becomes stagnant. The life goes out of it. It dies. Try and hold that bucket of water in the main stream of the river and witness the immense pressure buildup. You cannot secret away any of truth, love and knowledge without creating a tumultuous explosion. The truth always has a way of becoming known. The river of life and love will find a way of restoring the status quo. No secret that ever was or is will remain so.
The next thing I observe about my fears is that they are all of causing emotion. Secrets are the fear of causing emotions of being judged and victimised, of causing anger, hurt or humiliation. I ask myself: "Am I responsible for causing another person's feelings? Aren't feelings caused by our own choices? Aren't they navigation tools to guide us to our truth and don't we relish in our emotions when we allow our egos to sabotage us?"
If we are self loved and inwardly complete without need of praise, affirmation or approval from any other and if our egos surrender to our highest will, there should be no need for secrets. No truth can cause any harm to our higher spirit self. The only harm felt is by the ego which is our false sense of self. In fact I recently heard the suggestion that if our higher self is our Christ self, then our ego is the Anti Christ.
Surely then if we suffer at the expense of someone spilling their confessions, it is because we are so steeped in the opinions and rantings of our conditioned egos and perhaps our love is conditional. My right may be someone else's wrong. So in that case must I withhold my right so as not to wrong another? I seriously am of the opinion that we have to let the river flow. We have to allow the cause and effect. We cannot play God. We can only live our truth. Because by withholding our truth we create blockages and dis-ease within which in turn creates a ripple affecting all those in our midst.
So I ask myself: "Why do I do it?" "Does it matter if I am Judged? Isn't it better for my health and inner peace to flow with my truth, whatever the outcome? There will always be those who agree and those who don't, but we can't seek to please everyone because then we'll be living in denial and that is the worst secret of all. To deny oneself is to halt the inner flow of love and to create separation from our source.
I have spoken my truth. I look forward to hearing yours.
Have a wonderful week
in love
Nicolette
Why would I withhold information from anyone? Because I fear their wrath. I fear their judgement. I fear conflict. Or perhaps to the contrary, I fear embarrassing, humiliating, offending or hurting another.
What do all these scenarios have in common? Fear.
And fear and secrets are bosom buddies.
All fear and secrets are a blockage to God's divine love. They act as a tourniquet to the one and only TRUTH, the flow of life force through our veins.
Haven't we noticed the relief on a person's face when they spill and confess. I was watching Carte Blanche the other night when one of Lance Armstrong's team mates confessed his use of drugs in the Tour De France. In closing he shared how free he finally felt now that he had let it all out. The relief was palpable on his face.
I bet you're thinking that withholding information from someone is a secret held for their highest good. I would disagree. We never know what lessons others need to evolve to their highest good. It is by our experiences and life lessons that we evolve and grow.
All I know is that when we withhold or store knowledge it is like placing water from the river of life into a large bucket and removing it from its source. It is to hide that water in a dark place away from the sunlight. What happens to water once it is removed from its life force energy? It becomes stagnant. The life goes out of it. It dies. Try and hold that bucket of water in the main stream of the river and witness the immense pressure buildup. You cannot secret away any of truth, love and knowledge without creating a tumultuous explosion. The truth always has a way of becoming known. The river of life and love will find a way of restoring the status quo. No secret that ever was or is will remain so.
The next thing I observe about my fears is that they are all of causing emotion. Secrets are the fear of causing emotions of being judged and victimised, of causing anger, hurt or humiliation. I ask myself: "Am I responsible for causing another person's feelings? Aren't feelings caused by our own choices? Aren't they navigation tools to guide us to our truth and don't we relish in our emotions when we allow our egos to sabotage us?"
If we are self loved and inwardly complete without need of praise, affirmation or approval from any other and if our egos surrender to our highest will, there should be no need for secrets. No truth can cause any harm to our higher spirit self. The only harm felt is by the ego which is our false sense of self. In fact I recently heard the suggestion that if our higher self is our Christ self, then our ego is the Anti Christ.
Surely then if we suffer at the expense of someone spilling their confessions, it is because we are so steeped in the opinions and rantings of our conditioned egos and perhaps our love is conditional. My right may be someone else's wrong. So in that case must I withhold my right so as not to wrong another? I seriously am of the opinion that we have to let the river flow. We have to allow the cause and effect. We cannot play God. We can only live our truth. Because by withholding our truth we create blockages and dis-ease within which in turn creates a ripple affecting all those in our midst.
So I ask myself: "Why do I do it?" "Does it matter if I am Judged? Isn't it better for my health and inner peace to flow with my truth, whatever the outcome? There will always be those who agree and those who don't, but we can't seek to please everyone because then we'll be living in denial and that is the worst secret of all. To deny oneself is to halt the inner flow of love and to create separation from our source.
I have spoken my truth. I look forward to hearing yours.
Have a wonderful week
in love
Nicolette
Monday 5 November 2012
Less is More
I have had such a spiritual education in the past few weeks. Spirit has been nudging me to the self realisation of this ever so simple fact that the less I become and the more my ego is diminished, the greater my capacity to be my inherent spirit self. The less of ego I entertain, the more of Spirit I am. The less I try and control, the more satiated I am in blissful being.
Wow! I spent the weekend taking a reality check after having been on such an immense spiritual high. The reason is I attended our annual A.G.M. on Thursday night. Need I say any more?
The funniest truth about A.G.Ms is that they are an invitation for egos to do battle. Isn't it amusing to reflect in hindsight how easily we all become entangled in the web of defence. Out come our weapons to attack and protect our self imposed beliefs, wants and whims.
Well, you might be saying: "No, not me! I don't let my emotions get the better of me. I'm a lover, not a fighter."
Well, I took myself by surprise when I brought out all my big guns on Thursday night and had a field day decimating my target. Without judgement or seeking justification for my behaviour, I reflect back to the moment immediately after the outburst. My heart rate had escalated to that of a sprinter who had just completed a 100m sprint. My head felt like it was packed full of coals. My body temperature must have risen about 3 degrees. I felt like I was having hot flashes. I could feel my heart beating in just about every part of my body. I had the shakes. I was on an adrenaline high.
Feeling justified by my actions, I didn't give much thought to my behaviour until my body alerted me to some metaphysical ailment. I woke up the next day with stomach ache. It got so bad by Friday night that I had to climb out of bed at 3h00 to make a hot water bottle. Taking ownership of my self created inner tension, I acknowledged how I had turned my system acid by allowing my ego to sabotage me. I lay in bed with my hands on my stomach and tried to will myself to self heal. The harder I tried to focus on healing myself, the more it seemed to evade me. The 'I' that was trying to do the healing was just more ego and what Spirit has shown me over the last few weeks is there is no 'I' in healing. There is only healing once you surrender completely to Spirit.
The more I became aware of my self created reality, the more I wanted to reverse the state I found myself in, but the more I obsessed about it, the more it evaded me. I knew that I had to quit trying and surrender to being, but that is so easily said, but not so easily attained when one is doing battle within and trying to force your ego to lie down. When one becomes fixated on an intended outcome, it is rather like trying to catch and hold a sunbeam. You just cannot. You have to relax and bathe in its brilliant warmth. You cannot own it or control it, but you can surrender to it.
And as absolute synchronicity, as I am typing these words to you, I receive a mail from my friend, Dan. His message is a quote from Buddha: "You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger."
The text went on to say that it only takes 1 second for your anger to emerge. However it takes a relationship 6 months to heal and restore trust after anger.
I can testify to this fact as the discomfort I suffered in my own body was days worth, by comparison to my split second outburst.
So in closing, my lesson to myself is: In whatever I think, whatever I say or do, may I remember to operate from a place of love, from my highest self. May I remember that my self is Spirit and that everything else is unreal. When I surrender to my Self I feel bliss.
When I become nothing, then I am everything.
Have a blissful week sweet soul
love
Nicolette
Wow! I spent the weekend taking a reality check after having been on such an immense spiritual high. The reason is I attended our annual A.G.M. on Thursday night. Need I say any more?
The funniest truth about A.G.Ms is that they are an invitation for egos to do battle. Isn't it amusing to reflect in hindsight how easily we all become entangled in the web of defence. Out come our weapons to attack and protect our self imposed beliefs, wants and whims.
Well, you might be saying: "No, not me! I don't let my emotions get the better of me. I'm a lover, not a fighter."
Well, I took myself by surprise when I brought out all my big guns on Thursday night and had a field day decimating my target. Without judgement or seeking justification for my behaviour, I reflect back to the moment immediately after the outburst. My heart rate had escalated to that of a sprinter who had just completed a 100m sprint. My head felt like it was packed full of coals. My body temperature must have risen about 3 degrees. I felt like I was having hot flashes. I could feel my heart beating in just about every part of my body. I had the shakes. I was on an adrenaline high.
Feeling justified by my actions, I didn't give much thought to my behaviour until my body alerted me to some metaphysical ailment. I woke up the next day with stomach ache. It got so bad by Friday night that I had to climb out of bed at 3h00 to make a hot water bottle. Taking ownership of my self created inner tension, I acknowledged how I had turned my system acid by allowing my ego to sabotage me. I lay in bed with my hands on my stomach and tried to will myself to self heal. The harder I tried to focus on healing myself, the more it seemed to evade me. The 'I' that was trying to do the healing was just more ego and what Spirit has shown me over the last few weeks is there is no 'I' in healing. There is only healing once you surrender completely to Spirit.
The more I became aware of my self created reality, the more I wanted to reverse the state I found myself in, but the more I obsessed about it, the more it evaded me. I knew that I had to quit trying and surrender to being, but that is so easily said, but not so easily attained when one is doing battle within and trying to force your ego to lie down. When one becomes fixated on an intended outcome, it is rather like trying to catch and hold a sunbeam. You just cannot. You have to relax and bathe in its brilliant warmth. You cannot own it or control it, but you can surrender to it.
And as absolute synchronicity, as I am typing these words to you, I receive a mail from my friend, Dan. His message is a quote from Buddha: "You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger."
The text went on to say that it only takes 1 second for your anger to emerge. However it takes a relationship 6 months to heal and restore trust after anger.
I can testify to this fact as the discomfort I suffered in my own body was days worth, by comparison to my split second outburst.
So in closing, my lesson to myself is: In whatever I think, whatever I say or do, may I remember to operate from a place of love, from my highest self. May I remember that my self is Spirit and that everything else is unreal. When I surrender to my Self I feel bliss.
When I become nothing, then I am everything.
Have a blissful week sweet soul
love
Nicolette
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