Sweet Surrender

I would ask why, when we know that the natural flow of events is going to follow its course, no matter how much fuss and resistance we put up, we still allow ourselves to worry and stress?

When we're journeying on a bus and we're late for a pressing engagement, what use is it to ourselves to run up and down the bus in haste? Our rushing and worrying won't get us to our destination any sooner than if we were to sit quietly, making full use of the precious time to connect with those around us and be fully present.

Why do we always allow ourselves to fall victim to our old patterns of behaviour? Maybe we are stuck in a self-made rut and resistant to change.

Two things that stick out for me are these:

What swings to the right, will counter swing to the left and then a little less far to the right again and then to the left, until equilibrium is achieved. Politics is a lot like this. If we observe the restrictions caused by various parties that have ruled and then watched the walls come crumbling down and the resultant counter swing to the extreme. To expect anything to the contrary would be unrealistic.

Change is inevitable and the sooner we surrender to this, the sooner we can get on with the stuff of living. Everything and everyone of us is continually aging, maturing, evolving and redefining itself. No amount of reconstructive surgery or rejuvenating pills can prevent us from getting physically older. Everything in nature is under continual refinement. Watch the erosion of soil and the melting of the glaciers. No two days are ever the same. Each day the clouds arrange themselves in different formations. Every year the trees put on another notch to their girth, the texture of their bark becomes tougher and more brittle. Even our belief system is continuously under re evaluation.

What would be the point of trying to reverse or stop the clock? What we do need to do is really savour each moment and languish in the knowing that we are exactly where we are meant to be. There is no time in the distant past or in the future which is better than right now.

Wars will come and wars will go. Political buffoons will rise to power and then be eliminated. Children will grow up in spite of their upbringing, World will change and reinvent itself, despite the destruction  and resistance caused by humans. We will survive the changing world we find ourselves in despite any attempt to keep it just like the 'good old days'.

Why is it that every generation believes that their upbringing was the way the future generation should be brought up and are resistant to all the ways of the youth. Isn't it our wake up call to move out of our self inflicted ruts? Who are the teachers anyway? Perhaps our children are our greatest teachers forcing us to keep on evolving with them or wither up and get left behind.

Why would we ever think that the unevolved person we were in our twenties is preferable to the person we are right now? Can't we see benefit in the weathered and shaped person we are now as opposed to the tender sapling we once were? O.k. our suppleness physically and mentally, at the sapling age, is to be revered and we should always strive to maintain that flexibility in our thinking, but come on...

Why do we fear death? We will die for sure. Why do we fear not emptying our inbox? Our inbox will continuously be refilled and will most certainly have undealt with matters in it when we die. It will make no difference to the continuation of the world. Why do we fear and worry about all our intended outcomes when clearly life is the journey and NOT the destination. We obsess about what and how we will survive, what our children will amount to, whether we have enough money, whether we'll leave a legacy, whether we're good enough and so the list goes on and on.

What is the point of worrying, except to tarnish our present experience?  In this constant state of fear we are not present. We do not savour the joy that is every precious moment, never to be repeated again. We cannot PVR our entire lives and have them back when we realise with hindsight that there was after all nothing to worry about and fear. We survived in spite of all the sleepless nights, all the negativity and panic attacks.

So why don't we utilise these magnificent minds of ours and make the choice to surrender to what is and the excitement of not trying to second guess our future, but rather let it unfold in its mysterious way, trusting that where we are and where we end up is exactly the right place.

Wake up tomorrow morning with the innocence of a child and say, "Wow! What an awesome day!" and see where it takes you.

Surrender and savour the sweetness of being!

in love

Nicolette