GO DEEPER

How often I find myself skirting over issues, applying a quick fix or rationalising a problem and putting a band aid over it. I assume the issue is sorted. But is it?

A wise shaman told me that sometimes it is necessary to retrieve the past sufferance of long ago, to unpack it and allow oneself to mourn. Sometimes it is necessary because the tears are embedded and stuck and have no way of being brought to the surface. 

I don’t know about you, but I tend to be the person who looks for quick solutions. I forgive quickly and move on, denying myself any form of grieving or self-pity. I am pretty much an impatient, instant gratification type of woman.

The shaman warned me that there are many layers to forgiveness. 

We start with the outer layer, but soon it becomes evident as time passes that there are deeper layers to address. 

We need to learn to trust again. We need to allow a certain time to grieve. We need to be patient and allow the feelings of sadness, loss, regret or of disappointment to wash through us. We need to honour ourselves with loving tenderness and kindness.

Crying I am learning is such a necessary part of the healing process. It is a very important criteria in detoxifying, cleansing and purifying the body, mind and soul. Having a good cry releases certain hormones like serotonin and lowers the pulse rate. As a result, we are afforded the space to assess our situation with renewed calm, through fresh eyes, as it were. 

So, today I am going deeper. I know there is still work to be done, and will be until my dying day. It is my intention to dig out the old wounds, ones I don’t even remember. I intend to uncover the scars that are creating blockages that prevent me from accessing my full capacity to love unconditionally. My adult self will embrace my small child self and comfort her as she cries.

I don’t know what the process will reveal, but I am making it my intention to allow it to unfold as it is meant to. I am going to see what shows up and take it from there. 

I have been warned that it will take time. I need to allow myself time to remember. I know the greatest challenge I face is going to be the act of sitting, not doing, but just listening. 

Anyhow, I have decided to drop my tough girl mask, and journey to the depths in humility and compassion. 

I forgive myself today for my ignorance and innocence that denied me the space and time to grieve at the appropriate time.

So, I know what I am doing this week. What are you up to? Whatever it is, may you be blessed.

All my love

Nicolette

COLOUR IT BEAUTIFUL

In response to the statements Zelda le Grange made on Twitter a few days ago, John Robbie shared his advice, this morning, about tweeting when you’re angry. He suggests taking a few deep breaths and walking away, before you commit your tirade to history, because once on social media, always on social media.

I have a ‘soul-ution’. I call it the 24 hour rule. If you are offended by something someone said, sleep on it for 24 hours and allow your emotions to settle. If you still feel strongly about an issue after a cooling off period, then voice your opinion. 

When we allow ourselves to become emotional rollercoasters, we are irrational and often incoherent. Our egos go to war to protect themselves from all sorts of perceived hurts and damages. We put on protective armour to shield a part of ourselves that is just an illusion.

Ego is just the façade of who we are. Ego is not the real deal. So, step back behind the mask you show the world and connect within to the soul person you are.

By realigning to your spirit-self you will awaken to the knowing that nothing anyone says or does to you can harm your spirit. Your spirit doesn’t have a colour, gender, image or agenda. 

Many of us are bearing the scars of our childhood, but it is our responsibility to determine how we are going to manage that. We have the choice to react to every situation as though we are still freshly persecuted. We can continue to punish our present relationships with our old wounds.

 

We have the choice to paint our futures with the colour of our pain. But we don’t have to. Why not choose a different colour, the colour BEAUTIFUL.

 

It’s time we make the only rational choice, to let go of our pasts, detach ourselves from all the unconscious behaviour of our persecutors, and stop blaming our parents, partners, siblings and all the other imperfect people in our midst for their shortcomings. 

Let’s stop undermining our present experience with all our blame, guilt, need for revenge and retribution for the misdeeds of the past. We know of the wrongs and the hurts. We have been there. Let’s not carry the pain into our futures.

 

For the benefit of your life going forward, press the DELETE button. Just do it. Clear the memory so you can start afresh. It is never too late to have a happy life. Stand in front of the empty canvas that is your life and colour it beautiful!

 

Have a magnificent week precious soul

All my love
Nicolette   

MESSAGE IN A BOTTLE

I know this is going to sound strange, especially as we kick off to the start of a powerful and promising New Year, but here’s the thing… 

I was sitting on my patio this morning, enjoying my paw-paw and seed breakfast, listening to the beautiful birds singing, and enjoying some silent time. I reflected on my gratitude for the birds, for the delicious, tasty fruit I was savouring, for the amazing life I have been gifted with, my health, my beautiful family, my wonderful husband, Chris and all his effort and hard work that afford me moments like these to appreciate my life. I reflected on how beautiful the silence was and how calm it made me feel. In the morning quiet everything was perfect. And then I remembered back to a bottle of wine that my niece, Hollee and I shared in 2010.

And as the memory of that year played out I was reminded of the stress I had allowed myself to become victim to. I had been fighting life rather than accepting and going with the flow. I remembered how Chris had advised me to slow down to prevent burn out. And I remember how impatient I was and unwilling to admit to him that he was right.

A week later I was enjoying some special time with Hollee over a bottle of red wine when she retorted: “Hey, look Nix. It says here on the bottle:

 

‘Slow down. It’s about time.’”

 

I remembered my astonishment at the way Spirit works and how He/She gently keeps sending the same message until we are ready to hear it.

To make my memory fonder I went into my bar and reached for the bottle which I have saved all these years. I turned the bottle in my hands and savoured all the messages Hollee and I wrote four and a half years ago.

Only today did I notice the little tortoise on the logo, for the very first time. It reminded me of the children’s’ story about the tortoise and the hare. And other words of wisdom flooded to me such as “less haste, more speed”. And I think that the penny has finally dropped. I am really hearing and getting the meaning of this message, which is long overdue. 

So, as I sit in the starting blocks of the year ahead, I have made a cognitive connect with the tortoise. 

I have every conviction that I will run the race, but that I will do it slow, savouring all of life’s magical moments and that I will achieve everything that I am meant to and more.

Sweet soul, if you have had a tortoise awakening too, I invite you to pace yourself for the year ahead, to take it slow and choose a pace that you can sustain for the full duration of 2015.

Here’s to all of us crossing the finishing line this year with surplus energy.

Have a beautiful week!

Love

Nicolette