Facing your Fears workshop

“Whatever you fear you give your power to.”

FORGIVENESS - your gift of love to yourself

Nicolette Lodge

Just a reminder of my FACING YOUR FEARS mini-workshop this Saturday

Are you tired of your fears controlling you?

Do you always make decisions based on fear?

Do you fear growing old and dying alone?

Are you afraid of commitment?

Is your fear of failure preventing you from amassing wealth and success?

Does peace evade you?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, grab this opportunity to break your fears once and for all.

When:  Saturday 2 August

Where: Nice by Nature Guesthouse, 145 Indaba Lane, Muldersdrift, (see directions  attached)

Time:  11h00 ‘til 13h30

Investment: R150 (Early bird discount R120)

What to bring: Courage, notebook and pen and bring a plate of finger snacks to share, if you’d like to stay and network afterwards.

Banking details: NF Lodge, Standard Bank, Northgate, Br code  001106, Acc no: 186169841

E-mail proof of payment to nicolette@forgiftyourself.com

I look forward to seeing you there

Love

Nicolette

Darkness

Why are we so afraid of our shadow side?

Why do we try and hide behind others flaws and weaknesses?

Why are we so ashamed of those traits we label as negative?

Why do we fear intimacy with others?

It is because we think we are separate. We believe subconsciously or perhaps consciously that we are not good enough. We think we are imperfect and shameful and we don’t want anyone to find out. We fear getting too close to anyone lest they uncover our dark secret. We wear the mask of people pleaser and do-gooder and point our fingers at everyone around us to divert the attention from ourselves. Our greatest fear is of others discovering our darkness.

We forget that we are all the same. Our fears are the same as everyone else’s fears. Our darkness has its roots in our material identity, the part of us that forgets it is a Spiritual being. We need to remember that our Spirit is having an experience of itself through the medium of physical form. Without our physical bodies there is no experience. All our external challenges are vehicles to reveal our Spirituality to ourselves. Our Spirit doesn’t have any work to do on itself in the realm of Spirit. There are no addictions, discomforts nor tests of courage or faith in the formless dimension. It is only when we are gifted with a physical body that feels pain and pleasure that we can experience the tug of war between discipline and freedom.

We have an array of emotions from negative to positive. God wouldn’t have given us the negative ones if He didn’t expect us to use them. We all have feelings of anger, frustration, sadness, hatred and so on. That is normal and to be expected. Our feelings are not who we are. They are expressions which signal to us if we are living from a place of love or fear. Feelings need to be expressed, acknowledged and heeded, but never suppressed. When we try and conceal our negative feelings because of the fear of judgement, we cause ourselves to suffer. We make ourselves ill.

When we allow our emotions to surface with the sub ordinance of ego to Spirit, then the mind and intellect can expose any misperceptions and settle the discord in the present.

Darkness is created out of fear, which is the off switch to love. Fear is the doubt we entertain when we forget our divine nature, our oneness with Creator. There is nothing to fear except fear itself. As you let go of fear the love within illuminates you and the dark evaporates. Fear gives you the opportunity to experience who you are, by experiencing everything you are not.  The dance between light and dark is a continuous cycle of forgetting who we are and self-realisation in the realm of duality.

Be the dual being that you are in this lifetime. Don’t fight it. Let the darkness act as a reminder of your powerful Spiritual identity.

Experience wholeness this week by embracing your dark and your light

All my love                                                                     Nicolette                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               

Yesterday's Gone

I was listening to a discussion on the radio earlier about whether or not the Afrikaans portion of our National anthem be removed.

I listened to the arguments from both sides. 

One version was that the old anthem reminds us of apartheid and all of its atrocities and should be omitted. Another valid response was that the new anthem is synonymous with the new governance and all of its flaws and atrocities. Then it was suggested that perhaps we should create an entirely new anthem.

Besides the precious waste of time whilst high profile earners have tea dates to discuss the unimportant trivia such as this, we skirt about the symptoms but evade the cause. It is pretty evident to me that there is a deep wound that needs to surface so the light can enter it and it can heal.

FORGIVENESS….

You see the root cause of all this debate is unforgiveness. 

You cannot have reconciliation and forgiveness and then continue to look back into the past. There is no “I forgive you, BUT I will never forget.” You cannot forgive if you continually want to remind everyone about the past and judge their behaviour as utterly unacceptable. The fact that South Africa is where it is today, is testimony to the fact that we are no longer as we were in the past. We have all moved on. Much has happened. We are ALL survivors. Now, we need to live for today.

If we are continually reminded of the sadness, the suffering and the wrongness, we won’t be able to thrive. For each step we advance forward, we take one backwards, when we wallow in the past. With one foot in the past and one in the present, we are not able to live abundantly, fearlessly or free. 

We know where we have come from, and we did see and do things differently back then, because we didn’t have the consciousness we have right now. What we need to do is embrace all our knowingness and consciousness and invest that constructively in creating a successful and sustainable new world. We need to take confident strides forward and not step back into the dog pooh behind us. 

We should each take a large piece of paper and write down all the terrible things we did in the past and then crumple up the piece of paper and burn it. We need to set ourselves free of the debt, the bitterness and resentments and sprinkle them like ashes to the wind.

Yesterday’s gone. We are a new generation. Let’s celebrate what we have and use our talents to gift the world. Let’s arm ourselves with positivity and potential and let’s step into our power. 

Don’t look back. LOOK FORWARD!

Have a great week

Love  

Nicolette