Be Unashamedly You

I'm still dwelling on the subject of truth.

It seems that the simple art of being undeniably, unashamedly and exactly what we each are, is one of mankind's most difficult challenges.

The 'truth' is undeniably the only way, so why do we battle to live it?

We hide behind our veneer of kindness and compassion for the other as an excuse to not tell them what is. We pride ourselves in our suppression and our watered down sugar coated stories.

The truth is we don't lie to protect the other. We lie because we fear being condemned, judged or victimised. We lie because we are people pleasers. We lie because we fear confrontation.

When you have the courage to speak your truth, you are humble. You are without ego because you are laying your soul bare. You are inviting others to see exactly who and what you are. The spin off to this is that you give others permission to be honest and humble too. By humbling yourself you drop your mask and others no longer feel afraid of you. When you take that first step into 100% honesty you encourage and allow others to step forward and do the same. As long as we keep on lying we perpetuate the endless cycle of fear.

Think about it. Why does mankind obsess about making contracts and promises with one another? It is because he fears being cheated on. Why does he fear being cheated? Because he knows how he hides and conceals the truth from others, so he perceives that as he sows so he reaps. When each of us becomes brave and honest and unashamedly stands up for what we believe, we will no longer fear being lied to by others. We will have no need to place our trust in others.

We have become masters at smiling and agreeing with our adversaries whilst we mask our frustrations. Our body language and tone actually don't hide it. But when we are cross questioned about our non verbal cues we sugar coat our replies and smooth over the situations with "It's fine". We consent to doing favours for others because we're afraid of displeasing them by saying ''no''. We deny ourselves and we think we are being so pious. We lie with a brave face and the world applauds us.

We feel we are doing the world a service by denying ourselves. WE ARE NOT! We make ourselves ill, we block the flow of love, we rob others of their life lessons. Humanity is stuck because no one rewards honesty anymore.

I heard Reeva Steenkamp's father on Carte Blanche last night saying that all he wants is for the truth to be spoken. My heart ached for him as I wanted to yell: "Yes humanity, you, me, him, us, they, we all need to tell the truth. Stop lying!

Do it for yourself. You don't want to be lied to. Why do you think another person would prefer your  half truth to the whole story? Don't deceive yourself that withholding the truth from anyone is for their highest good.

Dispense with your ego, your feelings of worthlessness, pride or self righteousness and be who you are.

You are worthy of being heard. You are worthy of being trustworthy. You are worthy. Drop your shame and say what you feel. If the only reason you are clinging to your relationship is because of the secrets you hold, then your relationship is a lie. You are living an illusion. You will only have a real and meaningful relationship when it is based on authenticity.

I don't know about you but I would far rather you tell me exactly what you think than flatter me with your sugar coated lies. The only thing you can hurt with your honesty is my ego. And ego is not who I am.

Now's the time to take the first step. Place your trust in Spirit/God. There is no harm in saying how you feel and later changing your point of view. Your expressing exactly what is inside of you helps all of us evolve. We are mirrors for each other, so don't switch off your light. Let it illuminate you so that we all can experience that which we are and grow.

I encourage you to find your courage this week and be unashamedly YOU.

with tender love
Nicolette