Fear of failure

How often do we fall prey to the fear of failure? We procrastinate until the window of opportunity has passed its use-by-date. We find every excuse in the book: “I need to perfect this. I haven’t got enough skills yet. I need to study more. I need others’ approval. I need more time, more money, different circumstances”, excuses, excuses… 

The fear of failure is an illusion. It is an illusion that one day we will have all the information, finances, perfect circumstances and all the perfect skills to execute the plan without any hitches.

In order to allay this fear you need to realise that life is not finite. We are infinite, everlasting, indestructible souls. We are without beginning and without end. Only our physical body is finite. When it kicks the bucket we continue on into perpetuity.

Life is a journey and not a destination. This Earth school we are enrolled in, is a continuous learning through our experiences. If you don’t jump in, you will never learn to swim. Life is the school. Our experiences are our teachers. If you think you can learn about life by studying it from text books you will sit on the edge of the diving board until you die.

Another point I want to make is that you can’t fail unless you foreclose yourself by drawing a line and quitting. If you haven’t quit you are still on the path to success.

If your name was Donald Trump, would you consider yourself a failure? Donald Trump has been declared bankrupt a staggering four times. Each time he was down the tubes for billions of dollars he would charm his bank managers into loaning him even more money and reducing his interest rate. The American government granted him 40 years of tax relief. Why?

Because Donald Trump never gives up. He never quits. If Trump’s bank managers had foreclosed him they would have suffered massive losses. By increasing his debt they knew they were extending the period for him to succeed.

Donald’s story is an inspiration to us all.

Never give up. Learn from your mistakes. Give yourself eternity to succeed. Remain positive, hang onto your sense of humour, keep up your stamina and unleash your creativity.

Every obstacle is just another stepping stone to your success.

Have a beautiful week jumping in and experiencing life without judgement. Enjoy the journey!

Love

Nicolette

Facing your Fears workshop

“Whatever you fear you give your power to.”

FORGIVENESS - your gift of love to yourself

Nicolette Lodge

Just a reminder of my FACING YOUR FEARS mini-workshop this Saturday

Are you tired of your fears controlling you?

Do you always make decisions based on fear?

Do you fear growing old and dying alone?

Are you afraid of commitment?

Is your fear of failure preventing you from amassing wealth and success?

Does peace evade you?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, grab this opportunity to break your fears once and for all.

When:  Saturday 2 August

Where: Nice by Nature Guesthouse, 145 Indaba Lane, Muldersdrift, (see directions  attached)

Time:  11h00 ‘til 13h30

Investment: R150 (Early bird discount R120)

What to bring: Courage, notebook and pen and bring a plate of finger snacks to share, if you’d like to stay and network afterwards.

Banking details: NF Lodge, Standard Bank, Northgate, Br code  001106, Acc no: 186169841

E-mail proof of payment to nicolette@forgiftyourself.com

I look forward to seeing you there

Love

Nicolette

Darkness

Why are we so afraid of our shadow side?

Why do we try and hide behind others flaws and weaknesses?

Why are we so ashamed of those traits we label as negative?

Why do we fear intimacy with others?

It is because we think we are separate. We believe subconsciously or perhaps consciously that we are not good enough. We think we are imperfect and shameful and we don’t want anyone to find out. We fear getting too close to anyone lest they uncover our dark secret. We wear the mask of people pleaser and do-gooder and point our fingers at everyone around us to divert the attention from ourselves. Our greatest fear is of others discovering our darkness.

We forget that we are all the same. Our fears are the same as everyone else’s fears. Our darkness has its roots in our material identity, the part of us that forgets it is a Spiritual being. We need to remember that our Spirit is having an experience of itself through the medium of physical form. Without our physical bodies there is no experience. All our external challenges are vehicles to reveal our Spirituality to ourselves. Our Spirit doesn’t have any work to do on itself in the realm of Spirit. There are no addictions, discomforts nor tests of courage or faith in the formless dimension. It is only when we are gifted with a physical body that feels pain and pleasure that we can experience the tug of war between discipline and freedom.

We have an array of emotions from negative to positive. God wouldn’t have given us the negative ones if He didn’t expect us to use them. We all have feelings of anger, frustration, sadness, hatred and so on. That is normal and to be expected. Our feelings are not who we are. They are expressions which signal to us if we are living from a place of love or fear. Feelings need to be expressed, acknowledged and heeded, but never suppressed. When we try and conceal our negative feelings because of the fear of judgement, we cause ourselves to suffer. We make ourselves ill.

When we allow our emotions to surface with the sub ordinance of ego to Spirit, then the mind and intellect can expose any misperceptions and settle the discord in the present.

Darkness is created out of fear, which is the off switch to love. Fear is the doubt we entertain when we forget our divine nature, our oneness with Creator. There is nothing to fear except fear itself. As you let go of fear the love within illuminates you and the dark evaporates. Fear gives you the opportunity to experience who you are, by experiencing everything you are not.  The dance between light and dark is a continuous cycle of forgetting who we are and self-realisation in the realm of duality.

Be the dual being that you are in this lifetime. Don’t fight it. Let the darkness act as a reminder of your powerful Spiritual identity.

Experience wholeness this week by embracing your dark and your light

All my love                                                                     Nicolette