Finding Love

“The greatest risk you will ever take is to be who you are.” 

This is the line that stood out for me in the Cinderella movie I saw yesterday. How many different ways have we heard this self-same message and yet it elusively slips from our grasp?

Marianne Williamson said: “We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.”

I went to Jani Allen’s book launch last week and was mortified to see the corrosion of a formerly larger than life persona. All the controversy and lies that were propagated to poison and mislead the public by money-driven media and greedy politicians were done at her expense. I have been left with the feeling that Jani was the unfortunate dumping ground for all of South Africa’s collective guilt and shame.

Why is honesty such a huge challenge for humanity?

Oriah Mountain Dreamer in ‘The Dance’, asks the questions: “Why are we so infrequently the people we want to be and why do we so infrequently want to be the people we really are?”

I feel such a deep, deep sadness that humanity harbours such feelings of unworthiness.

Are you brave enough to be who you are? Are you honest and humble enough to be unashamedly the person you were born to be? Do you feel you need to improve on the job God did in the first place when He made you? 

If we didn’t spend so much time hiding behind our fears and pretending to be what we’re not, we would have so much more time to enjoy life. We would see in each other the love that we share instead of our unanimous fear of failure.

Other people don’t have better lives than you. They are just wearing masks to fool you into believing that they are perfect. They are just as scared as you of being found wanting. Like you, they feel inadequate and unworthy of being loved just the way they are.

There is only one possible reason we are here on Earth and that is to have the experience of ourselves, our true nature which is unconditional love. The only way we can have this experience is through our interactions with one another. We cannot experience what love is any other way.

So, if we are all searching for this self-same experience - to be loved, accepted, appreciated and understood, then why are we all running around with our masks on?

How can we experience love and know we are being loved for all the right reasons if we continue to wear our masks? Stop pretending, stop hiding and be your authentic self. You will be a lot more believable, vulnerable and lovable and here’s betting the love you are looking for will find you.

“Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.”                 Oscar Wilde

Have an unashamedly honest week!

Lots of love

Nicolette