JUDGEMENT

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”    Mother Teresa

Judgement, judgement, judgement….

Why is there so much judgement in the world? Why do we judge one another for our spiritual beliefs? We judge one another for our different sexual preferences, our physical otherness, our religious choices, for our God-given personalities. We judge those less fortunate, less physically or mentally able. We judge those with a perceived edge, who appear to be more gifted, talented or prosperous, and so on.

Why do we huddle together in mutual ‘usness’ against feared ‘otherness’? Why are we so afraid of being exactly whom and what we are? Why don’t we use what precious time we have left of our lives here on Earth to unite all our otherness in LOVE and compassion and caring, instead of waging criticisms and war with words, accusations, suspicions and our self-righteous assumptions?

Why do we dance between lost feelings of searching for others whose convictions appease our insecurities, and the self-righteous feelings of pride and arrogance in our absolute certainty that we are right whilst the rest of humanity is wrong?

Why do we think that our beliefs are the absolute truth and that so many others’ convictions are so absolutely and emphatically wrong?

How can any religion be the only right one? How can ‘my God’ not be ‘your God’ and the same God of everyone? Think about it. How come there are so many different religions? A religion for every different expression of humanness.

Anita Moorjani in her book, Dying to be Me, says “Religion is just a path for finding the truth. Religion is not truth. It is just a path, and different people follow different paths.” 

Just pause the barrage of judgemental criticisms in your mind for a few seconds and meditate on this simple suggestion. Entertain the notion that we are all aspects of Divinity expressing and exploring different paths that all lead to one and the same place, home.

What if we are all here on Earth to deeply connect with who we are by working through all our choices and experiencing alternating moments of suffering and joy? What if we were to accept that sometimes we will make choices we will regret and these will result in us making other choices next time around? What if we were to be patient and compassionate in others trials and experiences, allowing them to learn for themselves without trying to force them to experience life the way it happened for us? What if we were accepting of others paths and their trials and victories?

Open your heart and allow your mind to explore the territory of the unknown. Imagine that a few years from now you will come to the realisation that everything you believe today no longer serves you, and live your life today as though you have that altered perspective right now. Relinquish your rigid beliefs and be open, supportive and accepting of others paths. I know I have changed paths many times in my life. Choice and change are integral to our life experience. It is the only thing which is guaranteed.

So, on this Valentine’s Day, let’s stop judging one another. Let’s spend the little time we have left loving, including and supporting one another.

Let’s be the love we wish to be showered in by the world.

Have a beautiful day forgifting yourself with love from yourself to yourself.

A heartfelt hug and warmest love

Nicolette